Something happened this week that I just cannot shake. I was out to drinks after work with some people and the group began to talk about a person we all knew (N). All of a sudden a "friend" stated with a booming voice and force that N was ugly. She went on to say that N's face was ugly and and she was very unattractive. I was extremely bothered by the tone of this conversation. I spoke up and said that was a horrible thing to say about N. The group knocked me down a bit for being so outspoken and there was a few awkward moments. The conversation moved on my brain kept mulling over this conversation.
The next day I saw the person who said the rude comments and brought it up again. I told her how bothered I was by her statements. She defended herself and she didn't see anything wrong with what she said and she stood by her words.
That was the problem. I don't want to be around people who think that way. I think it just brings you down. It is so hard to be a good person and to be kind to others. Much harder than being shitty and pointing out the flaws.
I don't want to be that kind of person. I don't want to be sucked into mean spirited gossip and conversations. I don't want to laugh at the expense of others. I want to treat others as I want to be treated. Saying this is easy but putting it into practice is super hard.
I think it is a natural thing for people to gossip about others. I don't think you can ever really be free from it. However, there is gossip that is factual, neutral and mean spirited. I don't want to participate in determining who has fake boobs and judge them for it. I like to know things and I like to know about other people but I hope there is a right way to do it.
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